Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Words are Important

Use them.  One of the major differences between men and women is how they use words.  Woman like to talk; men don't.  That's just the way it is.  You might spend three hours watching a football game with your son and never say a word - and both of you would be happy.  But your daughter isn't wired like that.  You have to talk to her.  A good rule of thumb is to use twice as m,any words as you normally would, even if it means just saying tings twice.  Daughters can be prone to self-doubt.  Pay her compliments repeatedly, so she knows you're sincere

When she talks she wants you to respond.  Your daughter is sensitive not only to herself, but to others, and is always asking herself:  Does he like being with me?  Is he quiet because he's thinking about something?  Is he angry?  Is he depressed?  She wants you to be happy becasue then her life is better.  She'll often act as your personal aide, doing what she can to improve things.  Your are the center of her world.

In return, you need, first and foremost to tell her you love her.  Not just on special occasions, but regularly.  That might be easy when she's five, but she needs to hear it even more when she is fifteen.  She needs to hear you say it all the time.  When a daughter hears "I love you" from her father, she feels complete.

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